Let me preface this post by saying that I don't know everything about being in my 20's, most evidently because I am only 22. That being said, I have learned what it means to not be a teenager anymore. For a while I didn't desire the responsibilities of being independent, but now that i'm out here, I wouldn't change anything.
Don't let "Your 20's" be a cringe-worthy phrase associated with uncertainty and being broke. In the past two years I have strengthened friendships, lived in two new cities, defined my personal style, & travelled with some of the people I love most. I look forward to eight more years of growth. Here's what i've learned so far:
1. Working multiple jobs at once is an incomparable experience
While living in New York City, I worked as a server, bartender, nanny, and I volunteered at the dance studio where I studied to get discounted classes. Although the hustle was all too real at times, my schedule gave me the motivation I needed to feel productive every single day.
2. Vulnerability is Necessary
Once I realized I didn't know everything, it was like a weight had been lifted. Learn things. Ask questions. Don't feel inferior because you don't yet know how to file an insurance claim or do your taxes.
3. Stop saying "I would never do that"
More importantly, how do you know you don't like something if you've never tried it? News flash, if you're waiting on the right time to change the way you live, this is the opportune moment.
4. People don't judge you as much as you think
To say that I am a people pleaser is an understatement. I still struggle with the "what will they think" question, but just grasping the fact that people are more concentrated on themselves than anyone else is crucial. Knowing this can help you choose things YOU love & make you more confident in your own decisions.
5. It's okay to change your mind (and your dreams)
Don't keep doing something because you "feel like you should". Follow what makes you so passionate that you have no choice but to speak about it. Give yourself outlets. Make change, even when the outcome is uncertain.
6. Travel whenever you get the chance
Whether it be overseas or simply to another state, putting yourself in a new environment is refreshing & can change your perspective on life.
7. Love can hurt, but...
It can also be the greatest. Getting to know someone & connecting with them on a deep level is something I take for granted sometimes.
8. Nurture your values
Even if you are in a room of people who hate everything that you are, stay true to what you know is right. Stand firm in what you believe is good, trustworthy, & praiseworthy.
9. Stop saying sorry all the time
Be genuine with your feelings. Walking on eggshells & trying to keep everyone happy is simply impossible.
10. Live transparently
Think about who you are. When you get home. When you sing in the shower. With the lights off. When you're not around other people. Being fully honest & unapologetically yourself can be scary, & i'm still getting there, but so far it has made me feel incredibly liberated & empowered.
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